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How Much Sex is Normal?

Sexuality can become an obsession whether outside or within a marriage. Anything taken to an extreme is wrong and is not limited just to sexuality.

What would be obsessive sexuality in marriage? It would be if it consumes every thought and action and leaves no room or time for anything else. As to the frequency that is normal, it varies from couple to couple. The frequency depends upon their personal desires. For the newlyweds, it may be every night and sometimes during the day for up to a year or more. As couples begin to age, it usually becomes less and less frequent. As to averages, there are no actual averages. Some may be perfectly content to never engage in sexuality and prefer to live in a celibate type of marriage. Others may be content once a year, once a month, one a week, or several times a week. For those who may want specifics, studies have shown that the average Christian couple engages in sexual activity anywhere from 3 to 5 times a week. What is normal is what is normal for you and your spouse.

Spouses should be considerate of each other's desires and needs and to meet those needs and desires. Paul addressed this in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 that reads as follows:

"The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."



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