Fellows, do you want a wife who will ravish
you with her love when you come home from a long dayís work?
Do you want a wife that lets you know that in her eyes, you are
her delight and are all of the man you like to think of yourself
as being? Do you want a wife that brags you up with her friends
and tells them what a great guy you are and how much she admires
and respects you? Do you want a wife who says with pride, ďYes,
my husband is the head of our home.Ē? Do you want a wife who is
thrilled to be with you and who will do anything you ask of her?
Do you want a wife who supports you and will stand behind you and
love you in all the situations which come up in life?
Here again, a "no" answer to any of these questions
means that the blood has already quit flowing through your veins.
Well guys, it doesnít come without a price. What you decide depends
upon your attitude about your wife, the girl who you picked out
of all the others to spend your life with. Fellows, let me tell
you a secret about women, they need to know that in your eyes, there
is no other and that she is the desire of your heart. She needs
to know that she is beautiful and attractive and important to you
and that you canít do it without her support (come on fellows, in
reality you canít and you know it, already addressed the ladies
about that). This cannot be overemphasized, guys.
They are different than us, and really, arenít you glad? Their emotional
makeup is entirely different than ours, fellows.
Today it is not politically correct
to distinguish a difference between the sexes, but that is going
against the very nature of how God created us. That little
girl in them is still there just as that little boy is still in
you. God created us in a way that we can never be complete without
one another. We are only complete when we are one flesh, man and
woman together. They need us to make them complete and we need them
to make us complete. It is time to get off the macho high horse
and admit it guys. If you try to force your wife to submit to your
authority, (by the way it is not your authority, God placed that
authority with you to do what is right with that authority) all
youíre going to get is a rebellious wife, and I canít say that I
would blame her. How do we guys respond to someone who tries to
demand and command us to do something against our will? What makes
you think it should be any different with your wife when you do
that to her?
Quite frankly, I admire the woman that says,
ďHe thinks I see him as being a king on the throne when in reality
I see him as a pauper sitting on the pot.Ē You can take the
throne by force guys, but all you will gain is an unwilling subject
caving into your self-imposed power and you will drive her to the
arms of another man. Donít think for one moment that you will be
guiltless if that should happen. If it does, it is because you have
not fulfilled the proper role that God has called you to fulfill
as head of the home. With that role comes responsibilities, and
those responsibilities are for the welfare of your wife, not your
own fulfillment of being the club and whip ruling over your home.
It means supporting your wife financially, emotionally,
physically and spiritually. If you should neglect any one
of these, you will not be the true king sitting on the throne of
your home, the king your wife desires you to be. She will place
you there if you fulfill these responsibilities, and any woman who
would not desire that of you has gone against her own nature. Believe
me, fellows, she would be more that willing to submit to that authority
with gladness in her heart and you would be ravished with her love.
Guys, let her know that she is the desire of
your heart. Tell her that. Let her know that in your eyes
she is the most beautiful, attractive and desirous woman in your
life and that you need her love. If you think that is sissy stuff,
then be prepared to have things continue as they are. If you think
only a sissy does those things, then why donít you have the courage
to do it? In reality, men, that is what being a real man is all
about, having the courage to be a real man and to go against what
the world may be telling you what a man is all about. A real man
is as gentle as a lamb with his wife and as vicious as a lion when
it comes to protecting her against harm. But fellows, donít let
that harm to her come from your own hands, or you will feel the
hot breath of the Lion of Judah upon yourself.
One more thing needs to be addressed here to
men. I say this mostly to the men even though it will apply
to some of the ladies as well, but primarily to the guys. Guys,
get rid of all those little girly magazines, porn videos and such.
This violates the sanctity of the marriage bed. (Please see our
article on the effects of Pornography and
A Wife's Letter to Her Husband on Pornography.)
If you do what I have spoken to you about today, you wonít need
such things. You will be satisfied with the wife of your youth and
it will be pure and holy, which will be much more satisfying than
anything you could get out of such things like that. You may not
realize it right now guys, but those things bring much harm upon
yourself and your wife.
She feels that when you ogle and drool over
those things that she is being replaced with those things and she
is nothing other than the object you are fulfilling those fantasies
with, and at those moments, she really isnít your wife. Be
really honest with yourselves on this matter, you know that is true
donít you. You know you would not like for your wife to be fantasizing
about some other guy while you were making love to her. How do you
expect her to feel any differently about that? That porn stuff cheapens
and degrades the purpose God created sexuality for, and He cannot
be pleased with such things because porn is self-gratification and
takes the intimacy and love being expressed for your wife completely
out of the picture and is real close to bringing someone else into
your marriage bed and defiling it.
Strange, isnít it? If you came home
and found another man in your bed, I donít think you would be very
pleased about it, yet what is it you are doing when you bring that
stuff into your own bed and try to get your wife to look at other
men engaging in lust and self gratification like a bunch of tomcats
with a feline?
In preparing this article, the Bible says that
when a preacher preaches, he is preaching to himself as well, and
I have been convicted of several things in here myself. But
I am not going to quit trying to obtain that goal that God desires
that all marriages should be, and will continue to work in areas
that are still lacking in my wifeís and my marriage of 35 years.
Even though it will never be perfect, because guess what? Neither
I nor my wife have obtained perfection yet either, and we never
will until we pass from this life, but that is no excuse to give
up and become complacent either.
How Important Is Human Sexuality
Well, important enough to have created us this
way and to equate the two as being an example of how Jesus as the
Bridegroom is to the Bride (the church of believers) and how the
church should respond to the Bridegroom. The entire book
of ďSong of SolomonĒ draws this parallel as well does the marriage
supper of the Lamb which is the gathering of the Bride to be with
the Groom as another great example. In fact the Bible is filled
with the same type of parallels. Abraham as the Father and his great
love for Sarah is another example. Many more could be cited as well.
In fact, the entire Bible beginning from the garden of Eden with
the love of Adam and Eve with the conclusion in Revelations with
the gathering of the Bride to the Groom. What Satan had attempted
to destroy, God has gathered unto Himself by both what a marriage
should have been from the beginning, ending with what God has planned
for all of mankind at the marriage feast of the Lamb.
God is so good to us, isnít He!